April 2018 Stardate

Stardate: April 2018

Aries: You really aren’t a perpetual motion machine, although you may feel like one lately, especially if you were born on or before April 5th. This is a popcorn popper of a month for you, and a strong response to its challenges can leave you proud of yourself. You may need to set healthy boundaries around the 2nd especially at work, or anywhere else that puts you in the public eye or involves authority figures. Without those boundaries in place, you may be fuming around the 15th, especially if you feel that your independence is being threatened. Keep your temper, because a difficult situation may come to a head around the 17th and require realism and grounded effort from you, part of which is verifying important details. Near the 22nd, some soul-searching may be in order, but don’t accept any blame, guilt or responsibility that isn’t yours.

Taurus: Has it felt as though Life equals Stress and Responsibility lately? Then how about an experiment? At least until the 24th, practice as many random acts of kindness and beauty as you possibly can, particularly on the 17th and the 22nd . If you think you can do this all month, go for it, but tell no one what you’re up to. Pay attention to how being a generator of good vibes makes you feel, and notice who notices you being a stealth Samaritan. People who perceive and appreciate what you’re doing, especially late in the month, are good bets for a deep friendship or something closer. Arrange for some quiet time around the 15th and reflect on what you’ve learned from the experiment so far. The chores and the challenges won’t have disappeared, but there’s an excellent chance that your attitude and self-esteem will have improved.

Gemini: Remember the lesson about Boggarts in the Harry Potter novels? (Haven’t read them? Trust me and check them out of the library.) Boggarts emerge from a closet and immediately take the form of what you most fear. I don’t know exactly what that is in your case, but lately you or your mate may be facing some serious emotional intensity or major life transitions. Something’s ending; something else is arriving, and none of it’s simple. Since you can’t attend a Defense Against the Dark Arts course at Hogwarts (you’ll know what I mean if you went to the library), allow me to teach you a Boggart-defeating technique. Look it square in the face, say “Ridiculous!” and imagine the Boggart turning into something hilarious. If you find that difficult, then ask your silliest friend to help you visualize how Woody Allen might film your scary situation. (Check out Annie Hall, too.) Laughter shrinks those Boggarts down to size. So do minor self-indulgences, unstructured time, and good self-care. Reassess your plans around the 15th, with an eye to shedding goals and tasks that aren’t rightfully yours.

Cancer: A close friend or a partner may have had a rough row to hoe recently, along with sobering realizations around the 2nd, 17th or 22nd. You can’t fix everything for him or her. You can, however, be present and listen. Never underestimate the healing power of being fully seen and heard. You aren’t his or her only friend, so avoid burnout by getting some allies on board about providing company and confidants. Meanwhile, it’s high time to claim what you want at work or to establish your niche there. No one else can do that for you, although you might have help. You may appear controversial, puzzling, or wrong while you’re at it, particularly around the 15th, but so what? It’s your life, your job, and your reputation. Don’t be afraid to innovate, nor to take some time off after the 24th to recharge your batteries.

Leo: How do you get on with your extended family? Here’s some pleasant news: April’s a fine month to soothe or sweeten those relationships if you can listen well, stand your ground, stay in the present, and avoid knee-jerk reactions about assigning or accepting blame. If everything’s copacetic in your family tree, then April’s a good month to enjoy that blessed situation. Work’s taking a lot of time and effort and can be challenging or full of learning curves, but your relationships there can improve, too, if you’re realistic, forthright and remember your own worth while you negotiate and compromise. As my grandmother used to say, you’ll catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Around the 15th, an unexpected event may challenge your world view. Stay open-minded but think for yourself; you don’t need a guru.

Virgo: If you do something creative, please dive into it this month with all the passion, energy and commitment you can muster. You’ll learn a lot and may have some breakthroughs or expand your audience, even if it feels as though you’re stuck sometimes. If you’ve met someone new, however, please don’t let yourself become so dazzled that you leap before you look. It’s better to explore a possible relationship with caution, realism, good boundaries, and a certain amount of suspicion. What does that mean? Ask yourself what could be wrong with this person. Maybe nothing! He or she could be as kind, compassionate and intuitive as your first impressions told you. But do keep your eyes peeled and ask lots of probing questions. If you feel crowded or sense any attempts to manipulate or control you, then respect your gut’s reactions rather than making light of them. Take your time. More could be revealed around the 15th, 17th or 22nd.

Libra: Your inner life wants more attention, even though it may be hard to take time to listen. However, you do have to sleep, and your “dream-maker” may send you messages then. If you’ve ever thought about keeping a dream journal, now’s the time. Don’t remember any? Before you fall asleep, tell yourself that you want to recall your dreams, and put paper, a pen, and a flashlight on your bedside table. As soon as you wake up, even if it’s the middle of the night—that’s why you have a flashlight—write down anything you remember. If you’re serious and persistent, you’ll recall more and more, particularly around the 2nd, 17th and 22nd. What might your “dream-maker” want to talk about? The most likely subjects include something about your childhood, your self-esteem, or your important relationships. Examine your early life and work on your self-confidence. Around the 15th,  observe your mate’s behavior. Is he or she pulling away? Are you? How can you be more yourself with this person?

Scorpio: Meet the foot on the accelerator: Jupiter in Scorpio since last October correlates with opportunities for increased self-confidence, recognition that you might have sold yourself short in the past, and a personal Renaissance. However, if these buoyant feelings go to your head, you might start acting bulletproof. Now meet the feet on the brakes: Since December, you’ve needed to communicate clearly, thoroughly, in a way that commands respect, and without boasting or exaggeration. Since mid-March, you’ve also needed to be assertive. How to handle all these energies at once? Practice! And know the difference between internal and external communication. One: If pep talks aren’t part of your inner monologue, then learn to give them to yourself. Your closest friends can help. Two: With the outside world, dot every I and cross every T, with dignity, and stick to the facts. Three: Speak up if you feel threatened, silenced, or angry, particularly around the 2nd or 22nd . If you heeded Step Two, you’ll have records or witnesses for backup. A test of these lessons in self-confidence, attention to detail, and speaking your truth may appear around the 29th.

Sagittarius: Money may be on your mind more than usual lately, especially around the 2nd. Whether you’ll lose it, how you can obtain it, how best to spend it, and do you deserve it? Don’t let that preoccupation or any other fears stop you from enjoying a new adventure, if one calls to you near the 15th. Yes, you can! Feel the fear and do it anyway; that’s the spirit. In general, interesting experiences can enrich you Sadgemos and widen your horizons more than money can. Should you find co-workers willing to fill in for you if you’re away, make sure you reciprocate if they need a favor from you at month’s end. Another suggestion for late April: Recharge your batteries still more with a long, lively conversation with your most fascinating friend, new, old, or somewhere in between.

Capricorn: Here’s the paradox. You probably feel like Mickey Mouse as the Sorcerer’s Apprentice in Fantasia, as if you’ve set ill-conceived plans in motion that are running away with you or collapsing around your ears. But you’re actually performing miracles of organization, strategic prioritizing, persistence, and solid accomplishment. Let yourself take that in, please? Around the 15th, someone you live with or a family member may chafe at the pace you’ve been keeping. They’re not trying to hold you back, just expressing a desire for your company. The more they feel that you’ve been neglecting your personal life (and theirs), the more loudly they may express themselves. Don’t automatically go on the defensive; hear them out calmly. A warm relationship and time spent with congenial friends can significantly improve your quality of life, health, outlook and, yes, productivity. An April weekend spent camping or doing something else you enjoy will do you more good than cramming one more meeting into your schedule.

Aquarius: Sometimes spiritual or personal growth feels wonderful, magical, or uplifting. Other times, it arrives in the form of a shock, a loss or a misstep that makes us question ourselves. And sometimes it’s scary. Around the 15th, don’t say or agree to anything that feels inauthentic to your deepest Self. Don’t assert yourself or pick a fight just for the hell of it, either. Speak your mind; speak your heart; speak your gut. It may give you a bumpier ride for a while than just keeping your mouth shut would have provided you. But in the long run, having the courage, maturity and honesty to communicate from your core is post-doctoral soul work for you, and you can do an important chunk of it this month.

Pisces: You’re halfway through the soul’s journey you began in 2011 and will complete in 2025. It’s a long, slow journey intended to transform you, to help dissolve the hold of your old habits, wounds, or perhaps karma upon you. What will remain, if you’re receptive to this process? A more compassionate, imaginative, and intuitive you, who took one step away from your illusions and one step closer to your mystical core. That doesn’t sound too bad, does it? Nevertheless, this month you may feel stressed, anxious or despondent about your future. These emotions may follow the 15th’s new Moon, which assigns you an essay question: What do you value the most? If it’s external—looks, strength, money—then your anxiety’s understandable, since we’ll all lose those things before we die. But if what you value most is preserving the planet for future generations, or if what you most treasure is tolerance, or peace, then the knowledge that you’ve upheld those values cannot be taken from you.

MARCH 2018 Sundate

March 2018 Stardate
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PISCES: The 1st’s full Moon may leave you wondering what changeling some alien ship brought who looks just like your Significant Other or your buddy, but who unaccountably no longer speaks English. Life can imitate Art: In the 2016 film, The Arrival, a linguist tries to make contact with newly landed, squid-like aliens through a transparent but solid wall, with their side of it full of swirling mist. The linguist doesn’t panic when the aliens slap their tentacles against the wall; she just mimics the gesture from her side. When they squirt something dark and inky into the mist, she doesn’t immediately assume it’s a threat. Despite an extremely weird and disorienting start, communication is eventually established. Imitate the linguist: Remain calm, assume nothing, don’t get on your soap-box, and interact however you can: reflective listening, telepathy, smoke signals . . . Your intuition’s at an all-time high; let it help you. Dispelling any communicative fog will lead to more clarity about compromises that help meet both party’s needs. Nevertheless, after the 22nd and until mid-April, quadruple-check every detail, appointment, ticket, chunk of fine print, etc., which you or others could possibly have misunderstood.

ARIES: At this point in your life, you’ve probably realized that the Angel of Assertiveness Training is always hopping up and down beside you and yelling, “Your toes ‘bout to be stepped on! Come on over here and take care of yourself!” It can take longer to realize that the Devil of Assertiveness Training is always hopping up and down in the exact same place, yelling the same thing, and sometimes adding “Fight! Maim! Kill!” What are they saying this month? That you may need to set boundaries with an authority figure who treats you like a machine with no need of sleep or food. Or you may need to face fears or take risks related to becoming more widely known, visible, or controversial, without having any meltdowns. Confused? Look at your calendar and think carefully about how you felt on the 1st, when the full Moon illuminated any tension between how much time you spend dealing with responsibilities and tasks, versus how much you spend engaged in inner work or personal growth.

TAURUS: In one corner: your sweet, accommodating self is backed against the ropes and feeling overwhelmed with plans, agendas and schedules. From the opposite corner, fun, creativity, play, or new companions all beckon. They’re not trying to beat you up or knock you down; they just want you to spend some more time with them. The 1st’s full Moon may leave you wondering how to be your own referee. Ask yourself two questions. One: What are your most cherished goals and projects? Not all of those agendas pounding at you are actually yours . . . Two: What type of playful or creative time makes you feel most alive? Aim for a comfortable balance of quality time spent in both areas, but remember that we have differing needs for community involvement versus creativity and play. You may need to compromise, but don’t let disapproval, criticism, or lack of understanding from either your committee members or your new buddies block you from making progress in the direction that feels best to you. Hint: longtime intimates may have lots of perspective and enthusiasm to offer, and help you see more possibilities. Be careful, however, that they don’t have a track record of promising more than they deliver.

GEMINI: I hope you can hear me over that pounding in your house. In case you still can’t see some of them, it’s the skeletons in your closet or basement or under your bed who’ve been making all that racket. They got louder last December, and the volume goes up another notch by the middle of the month. Who are they? Usually, some habit or attitude installed in your psyche by your Family System, large or small. Sometimes, they’re a difficult event or transition or feeling that you haven’t fully processed. This month, a cosmic Ghost Hunter, in the form of the 1st’s full Moon, can give you some help with the boney critters. You might understand a family conflict in a different, more wholistic way, or from someone else’s perspective. You might see more about how your family interacted with the wider world, or how your parents treated each other. Perhaps another skeleton or a  secret will come to light. It may not be pretty, but facing it will help you grow. Accept new insights calmly and without beating yourself up, and you might be pleasantly surprised by fewer feelings of guilt or shame, or by an improvement in your health, energy, or peace of mind.

CANCER: Did your fairy prince or princess turn into a frog? Has a controlling, demanding, or hostile person appeared in your life? Don’t panic. Although you may want to crawl deep inside yourself and observe the anomaly for a while, come back out as soon as you can. You have some on-the-record communicating to do, possibly about your ideals, values, or beliefs, and where you don’t want them trampled or compromised. Or about your need for more freedom, more time, or more experiences. Don’t hide and wait for someone else to start these conversations: You have some communicating to do. With passion, nerve-wracking honesty, directness, wisdom, common sense, and the resolution to stand your ground without bullying or being bullied. Sound like a tough order? It’s worth it. Through this sort of dialog, you’ll learn if the other person has the amount of depth, insight, maturity, realism, courage, and anger-management skills that you deserve in a relationship. You’ll also learn more about the importance of bringing those qualities to the table yourself.

LEO: No, you’re not perfect. Yes, you’ve acquired some scars along whatever roads you’ve taken. We all have, and some faults, too, and sometimes we get the blues. Accepting yourself as you are, accepting that you’re human, accepting that your goal is to feel happy and whole within yourself, not strive for some arbitrary, external ideal of unchanging perfection—that’s all part of the basic groundwork for Leo sanity. Your need to maintain that firm foundation may be very apparent to you this month, especially around the 1st’s full Moon. Don’t let close connections undermine your self-esteem, or sap your energy if they’re ungrounded. Spend time with intimates who both see what you could be and love you as you are. Make a list of all the ways you’ve grown since your teens, and all the people you’ve helped since then. Chances are that those are two mighty long lists. Revisit them any time you feel your self-confidence slipping. Time alone is more restorative for you than usual these days, so make sure your schedule doesn’t get overloaded.

VIRGO: The 1st’s new Moon speaks to your relationships with your intimates: your  lovers, partners, close friends, and confidantes. Good To Know: You may find yourself with a current or potential significant other who’s wandering around in some sort of a funk or a fog, or is otherwise not fully present. Or one who’s unusually intuitive, gentle, or fanciful. Or both, and they may or may not be the same person. You may find yourself wanting some significant communication with him or her. If he’s lost in something like composing, meditating, reading or painting, you’ll have more success than if he’s in a substance-induced altered state, lives online, or is binge-watching something. In either case, don’t let him evade an important conversation. Make sure to let any new relationship develop slowly; meanwhile, observe whether this person explores his inner life or would rather numb or ignore it, and whether he takes responsibility for himself. Bonus: Someone who’s expressing this energy in a healthy way can be more unpredictable fun than a litter of kittens.

LIBRA: Wherever you are, you prefer calm waters and a tranquil horizon: at home, work, or the dentist’s office. Your private life, however, whether it takes place in your apartment or between your ears, could be smoother sailing lately. You’ll need to keep exploring, restructuring, and now, starting mid-month, protecting that private life when, like Clint Eastwood cleaning up the town in a spaghetti Western, Mars arrives at the door of your astrological house of home and roots—and you have to let him in. He’ll start from the ground floor up: home and roots. Hint: That can include your taking enough time off to be able to hear yourself think when you need to, and being direct with relatives or housemates if you don’t like their attitudes. Don’t let anything simmer. Meanwhile, an epiphany’s waiting to happen at work, where you may need to be patient with someone you may have privately regarded as a nitpicker or a critic. Try to see his or her point of view without letting yourself or your co-workers feel victimized. You prefer fairness, too.

SCORPIO: Since October, the Flying Fickle Finger of Fate, a.k.a. Jupiter, the Greco-Roman world’s King of the Gods, has been dropping good things in your path. Jupiter’s the personification of hope, faith, benevolence, and what makes life  meaningful. You’ve felt some mellowness that can be a welcome balm for intensity in your immediate environment lately. Let that balm cheer you and guide your actions until late this year. This is a season of forgiveness and renewal for you, of seeing possibilities for growth and self-confidence that you may have overlooked before. Think carefully about what opportunities might have appeared 12 years ago, the last time Jupiter transited Scorpio. Do you see any parallels with today? The 1st’s new Moon illuminates any tension between your schedule, goals, and “tribes,” and your precious unstructured time, which is infinitely worth protecting. Consider the fact that all adult mammals play. Dogs, cats, horses, dolphins: all adult mammals. Playing is necessary for our health and well-being. Don’t forget how! You may need to defend your right to unstructured time off. Do so as strategically as possible, with an eye to long-term resolution of conflicts. Don’t win a battle and lose the war at the same time.

SAGITTARIUS: Since about 2008, you’ve learned a lot about what adds to or subtracts from your sense of self-worth. You may or may not have included events from your childhood in your analysis. If you haven’t, now’s the time to add those events to the mix. The 1st’s full Moon left you aware of the need to balance time spent at home or in deep contemplation, with time spent at work or in the public eye. It may also have made you more aware of the needs of your job versus those of your family, or of any significant differences between your parents. How does any of the above affect your self-esteem? That, my friend, is your question this month. Listen carefully for any negative voices in your inner monologue—how you talk to yourself each and every day, and what you say—and ponder what the negativity’s sources might be. If those voices remind you of anything that your parents or family said, either out loud or with their behavior, it’s time to let go of their opinions, particularly any hostile, angry, or passive-aggressive ones. Also beware of any critical messages you received about your natural curiosity and inclusiveness. Those traits will always help you. Remember that you’ve arrived here embodying the archetype, among others, of the Explorer or the Anthropologist or the Philosopher. The less that the unexamined world-view and assumptions of your childhood affect you today, the more freely you can explore, and the more you’ll grow.

CAPRICORN: Been feeling a bit raw, as if you were in psychotherapy with Darth Vader? The 1st’s full Moon can leave you examining what you believe, along with the accuracy of your perceptions. For about ten years, you’ve been questioning what you think you know about your basic nature, and how your psyche has affected your most important life choices. That’s a tall order. Remember that during deep self-examination, we often see our shadow, the darker side of our nature, before we see the rest. Remember, also, that you’re not just your faults, blind spots, wounds, or the uncivilized primate impulses we all have sometimes. The point is to observe them, not identify with them. This month you may discover some anger, too: yours or others’. About what? You may have weathered various forms of hostility over the years, some understandable, some seemingly inexplicable. Or you may have lived through “acts of God” that weren’t the fault of any human agency. You may have been a jerk sometimes, too. (We all have.) Whether the anger’s old or current, now’s the time to analyze why you or someone else felt threatened. It may not be fun, but it can definitely be both healing and energizing.

AQUARIUS: The 1st’s full Moon can highlight matters related to self-esteem, resources, your mate, or an icky bit of criticism. Self-worth is complex in your case, because your life’s journey probably hasn’t included many road stops where you received praise, admiration, or other warm fuzzies from the outside world. Better to look for affirmation from within, or from deep, compassionate, and imaginative friends who share some of your values and appreciate your visionary qualities. With that said, you may have something to work out this month with your mate, your shrink, or another person extremely close to you. If it’s criticism from someone who loves but doesn’t understand you, you may need to give reassurances while maintaining sovereignty over your own life—that’s non-negotiable for you. If it’s criticism from an intimate who does get you, listen carefully and discuss it. Perhaps you’re the party with a beef, instead? Consider whether the behavior you don’t like is intrinsic to that person, which means it’s not changeable. For example, an extravert can’t live an introvert’s quiet lifestyle for very long without developing cabin fever, nor can an introvert socialize every night without being overwhelmed by the need for peace and solitude. Compromise is the solution, and compromise is the child of honest and respectful negotiation.